Last night I eavesdropped on the College World Series.
The baseball game was between Vanderbilt and North Carolina State. Per usual, the outcome ended up being a heartbreaking loss for one pitcher, and a glorious victory for another.
Vanderbilt pitcher, Jack Leiter, whose father, Al, pitched in the major leagues, carved up the other team… yet lost, 1-0.
One pitch, and a good pitch it was, got knocked out of the park by Terrell Tatum of North Carolina State.
Other than the homerun, Leiter was phenomenal.
One swing of the bat did him in.
His Vanderbilt team, the “defending” national champions, are now playing in the consolation brackets.
What to do if you are the pitcher who lost? Focus on the one pitch that sailed over the fence? Blame yourself for the team’s loss?
Or do you look for and find something positive to focus on?
It’s tough to focus on what you did correctly after a loss. It’s tough to look for the positives, the “what’s good about it?” But it is necessary if you want to recover and move on to bigger and much better opportunities.
Even though focusing on the positive is necessary, the same can be said about looking at what went wrong.
We make mistakes so we can learn from them. We make mistakes so we can grow and get better. And sometimes we don’t even make a mistake, and we end up with a result we didn’t want, desire or expect.
That’s life.
Losing in sports, especially in front of thousands of fans and/or a nationally televised audience, can traumatize the brain at a deep level. Some losses are easy to put behind you while others do long-term damage. The losses you naturally adjust to are no big deal; the ones you hold onto are the ones that become “blocks.”
Athletes who lose in big games sometimes feel that “everyone” is looking at them with contempt and disdain. In some cases, fans are ruthless and give that impression (Bill Buckner and the Red Sox fans are a prime example), but most of the time most people are focused on their own problems as soon as the game ends.
This was first told to me at a low point in my athletic career. A professor who was in the audience when I lost a hard-fought bout, took note of my sullen demeanor the next day. He called me to the side and said, “I know losing sucks. It hurts. But one of the things you need to realize is this: No one cares.”
Ouch! I’m not sure which stung more at that time. Losing, or being told that no one cares if I lose.
Here’s the most important takeaway: Your reaction to losing and your interpretations of comments from well-meaning and/or diabolical fans, can be a traumatic experience for the brain. Even so, there’s an incredibly effective way to tame and transform this trauma and use the energy from it to create the life you want.
Anyone can learn how to do this. It’s not just for athletes. And the process leads to feelings of euphoria.
Part of taming the trauma involves the self-image exercises in Theatre of the Mind and Zero Resistance Living.
The other part involves private or group coaching.
If you sense that you have “blocks” to moving ahead, then get started today. Turn the tide in your favor. Tame your trauma. Say goodbye to the agony of defeat.
Best,
Matt Furey
Coach Gable Gets Medal of Freedom
An epic moment, it was.
Yesterday, President Trump became the only person in history to “pin” legendary wrestler, Dan Gable. And he accomplished the task without a struggle.
Gable, the 1972 Olympic Gold Medalist at 149.5 pounds, who won all six bouts without surrendering a single point, stood ramrod still in an emotional moment, as the President of the United States fastened The Medal of Freedom around Gable’s neck, then centered it on his chest.
It was a proud moment for Gable, for his family, and for all wrestlers who were coached by him (myself included). It was also a grand moment for anyone who has ever wrestled because Gable is the ONLY grappler to ever win the medal.
Over the years, I’ve written much about Dan Gable and the influence he had upon me. His influence began in my early teens and follows me to this day.
In high school, I read a biography, The Legend of Dan Gable – the Wrestler, by Russ L. Smith, over and over again. I followed the teachings that were spelled out in the book, as well as what intuitively came to me “through the lines.” I made up my mind that I was going to go to University of Iowa and wrestle for Gable. He was going to be my coach.
At the time I made this commitment, I was a lousy high school wrestler. Yet, each time I read the book, I improved dramatically.
Part way through my senior year in high school, after suffering a semifinal loss in a tournament I had won the year previous, I was emotionally devastated. My record was 8-4 afterward, which in most peoples’ minds, would have completely disqualified me from achieving any of my goals.
On the Monday morning after the tournament, I went to the school library and checked out the Gable biography again. Funny thing is I was the only wrestler at my school who read it, which I could clearly see on the card you signed in order to check it out.
I devoured the bio once again, eager to glean the wisdom I must have missed in previous readings. As I read, I felt something was telling me that “this reading” was going to be pivotal.
When I finished, I had my answer. Instead of three workouts per day, two of which were conditioning, I needed to be “on the mat” three times a day. I needed to practice my takedowns, throws, escapes and pinning holds until I could do them in my sleep. Yes, I still needed conditioning, but that would come AFTER practicing my techniques. They were primary.
For the last six weeks of the season, my brother, Tim, accompanied me to the local recreation center before school each morning, where I would drill and drill and drill. Immediately after school I would go to the team wrestling practice, and then around 7 PM, after having a couple steaks, I would go to the recreation center again to practice and drill the moves I wanted to master.
These moves were nothing new. They were the same moves I learned when I began in the sport at age eight. But when I committed to three workouts per day on the mat, I discovered something more within each of them. Day after day, each move became easier to execute. It became effortless. And details upon details upon details revealed themselves to me.
As a result of putting in three workouts each day “on the mat,” I won 15-straight matches, most of them by lopsided margins. As I cover in The Unbeatable Man, I qualified for the state tournament. In the quarterfinals, I got Gable’s attention when I squared off against a blue-chip recruit that he was in the audience to watch. The result of that match catapulted me from a lowly high school wrestling program to a bonafide member of the national champion University of Iowa wrestling team.
For years I swore to audiences that “three workouts per day, on the mat,” were the exact words I read in Gable’s biography.
A few weeks before Coach Gable spoke at one of my seminars, I ordered a copy of the biography so I could find the exact quote and tell him how much it helped me. I combed the book several times and could NOT find it.
The night before Gable spoke, we got together to discuss details of the seminar. I had the book with me and asked him to sign it. He did, but not before asking how much I paid for it. When I told him the price, he cringed, but didn’t say a word. The next day, in his speech, Gable brought the price tag for the book up as evidence that his work is not yet done yet.
As Gable spoke yesterday before receiving the Medal of Freedom, you could see in his eyes and hear in his voice that his work is not done yet.
Congratulations, Coach Gable.
You’re the BEST.
Matt Furey
Fastest Way to End Overwhelm
It’s almost too simple to be believed, yet it’s true.
Whenever you are feeling overwhelmed, stressed or anxious, you are mentally picturing the wrong thing.
Most of the time, the “thing” you are picturing is yourself and the corresponding erroneous notions of not being good enough, smart enough, talented enough, and so on.
In short, you don’t believe in yourself – and you think you should.
Why?
Because that’s what everyone has told you.
“You need to believe in yourself. If you would just believe in yourself, you could do so much better.”
Today, I’m here to tell you that there’s a way out of the maze. And it’s not sitting around working on your personal beliefs.
This is a realization I arrived at one day when I watched my son and daughter accomplish feats that neither of them believed they could accomplish, beforehand. Yet, both of them did.
My son batted .506 his junior year in high school with a 24-game hitting streak. Did he believe he was going to do this ahead of time? Absolutely not.
My daughter’s involvement in ballet grew to the point where she wanted to learn pointe toe and eventually showcase her skills in The Nutcracker, even though she doesn’t have your typical ballet body.
How did the two of them accomplish these objectives if they didn’t believe they were going to?
It’s simple: They suspended their personal beliefs on the matter. They did not focus on whether or not they could or could not do it. Instead, they put their focus on the mental pictures that lead to the finish line. In short, they visualized and imagined being where they wanted to be.
I’m sure that if my son and daughter sat around thinking about their personal beliefs about their goals, they would have felt a sense of overwhelm.
Why do I say this? I say it because of all the people I have seen who are focused on themselves instead of the objective. And guess what happens to them? They get overwhelmed with negative emotions.
Their focus is on whether they are good enough, likable enough, credible enough, tall enough, fit enough, well-dressed enough, ad infinitum, ad nauseam.
Meanwhile, someone who never thinks about any of the above, someone who is far less talented, good looking, etc. focuses on the objective and nails it.
Funny, eh?
Well then, what’s the way out of this mess?
It begins by reversing the erroneous notions you were taught. And the way to begin reversing them is by practicing Dao Zou – a moving meditation technique I learned over 15 years ago that I use to eliminate negative emotions of every kind.
Why do I recommend this program? I recommend it because it combines movement with visualization and deep breathing.
In short, you’re practicing what I wrote about in Theatre of the Mind, while you’re on the go. This means you’re nailing two objectives with one arrow.
One of my coaching members has been practicing Dao Zou for nearly ninety straight days, without a miss. To say his life has been transformed would be underplaying the reality of the situation.
As you move, suspend your beliefs about can or cannot, about believe or believe not. Just follow the program and you will make your own discoveries.
See it. Feel it. Live it.
Matt Furey
Psycho-Cybernetics.com
P.S. Looking for coaching on how to succeed without worrying or belly-aching over your limiting beliefs? Drop me a line and I’ll get back with you.
Coach of the Year
A quick note of congratulations to my friend, Nick Nurse, who was named NBA Coach of the Year for 2019-2020 season.
Nick and I grew up in Carroll, Iowa, and attended the same high school.
In 2007, at one of my live events, Nick gave me two signed basketballs, one of which contained a message regarding his goal to become an NBA coach.
To hear the rest of the story, you’ll want to listen to Theatre of the Mind.
See it. Feel it. Be it.
Matt Furey
P.S. If you’re looking for coaching that will take you to the next level, contact me to learn more about Mind Power Monthly.
The Visualization Blueprint
There’s a saying, “A rose by any other name would smell as sweet.”
One of my teachers used to say it this way: “A rose by any other name still smells like a rose.”
In English, we have this substance known as “water.” You can also refer to it as aqua, 水, पानी, вода, νερό or wasser.
In chemistry water is written as H20.
What you call the substance doesn’t change the substance because the word “water” is not water.
And so it is with the word visualization. The words “imagine and feel” resonate with me in a deep way, yet these words don’t change the fact that when I’m picturing something in any way, shape or form, or with any method, I am visualizing.
Call it mental imagery, imagination, mental pictures, a blueprint, a mind map or a meditation, we are still referring to visualization.
Many years ago, I was reading a book written by Michael Masterson. In this book he talked about how he had four main goals and how focusing on his number one goal, financial abundance, would help him achieve all four.
Masterson also wrote about how he would get a pencil and paper each night and recalculate his net worth.
Whether he was aware of it or not, Masterson’s practice of writing out his goals and calculating where he was each night in relation to his goal, is visualization/imagination in action. In fact, with a pen or pencil in your hand, as you look at your numbers and compare them to where you want to be (imagining your visual goal), you are activating the brain in a major way.
Just because your eyes are open and a tool is in your hands doesn’t mean you are NOT visualizing or imagining. You are definitely doing so. In essence, it’s the same as a basketball player at the free-throw line, picturing the ball going “swish” before he shoots it.
Over the weekend a client asked me about “blueprints.”
I told him that a blueprint is a visual aid that you create through the practice of visualization.
You can craft your blueprint with your eyes open or closed. Makes no difference. Why? Because ultimately, you put what you pictured in your mind’s eye on paper. At the beginning of each day, when you hold the blueprint in your hands and look at it, you are imagining yourself either living on the successful end of the blueprint, or you are picturing what you need to do next to bring the blueprint into reality.
Whether you call your process looking, imagining, picturing, meditating upon, drawing up, calculating or measuring, you are using visualization.
So why is it that some people claim they are practicing something other than visualization, when they are definitely using it?
There are a number of reasons. Here are some:
1. The person is positioning a product in the marketplace and wants you to think it’s something he or she invented or “pioneered.” Not likely.
2. The person is emotionally resistant to the obvious. In fact, this person has trouble comprehending that the word water is NOT water.
3. The person has trouble visualizing with eyes closed, and therefore concludes, erroneously, that he or she doesn’t visualize at all.
4. The person is unable to realize that you cannot set goals or plan the actions you are going to take unless you are picturing those goals and those specific actions in your mind’s eye.
The purpose of writing out your goals are making plans is simple: The written goals and plans serve as a mental reminder of the mental imagery you selected from a plethora of possible choices.
Every time you look at these goals and these actions, whether you are willing to admit it or not, you are picturing them in your mind’s eye.
When you think of having a drink of water, you don’t picture the letters W A T E R.
You picture the thing you see in your brain… water.
You probably even get super specific on what type of W A T E R you will drink. Consider what images flood your mind when you see the following: Evian, Fiji, Saratoga, Artesian, Sparkling, Coors, Fresca.
Yes, two of those words are not WATER – but they have water. Nonetheless, how would you distinguish the difference? Though the process of mentally picturing, at a staggering speed.
So I find it amusing and entertaining the lengths some people will go to when they claim they don’t visualize. I guess the next thing you know, one of these “pioneers” and “thought leaders” will claim he doesn’t breathe.
No, I don’t practice breathing. I practice the… let me see, uh, …. the, the, the, … the blueprint for uh… for… respiration. Yeah, that’s the ticket. Respiration.
Meanwhile: “A rose by any other name still smells like a rose.”
See it. Feel it. Be it.
Matt Furey
P.S. Interested in Mind Power Monthly, my coaching program on Psycho-Cybernetics and the art of visualization? We are beginning this week. Send me an email if you are interested.
Psychological Warfare
One of the keys to gaining a competitive advantage over an opponent is…
PRAISE.
Yes, you read that correctly.
When you’re playing a game against someone who is “on fire,” start telling the person how good he or she is, then stand back and observe.
“Man, you’re awesome.”
“You’re the best I’ve ever seen.”
“Your form is perfect.”
“You’ve got this game down to an art form.”
“You haven’t missed a single shot.”
“You’re a natural.”
“You’re so talented.”
Now, let me switch gears.
The above isn’t just the way to gain a competitive advantage in sports, it’s also the way that many well-meaning parents (and teachers) undermine children.
Praise is a trickster.
What you intend to accomplish with praise can and often does backfire.
Why?
Because it puts focus on WHO instead of WHAT.
When a person focuses inwardly in a psychological way, when a person starts thinking about WHO instead of WHAT, it is easy to lose the feel for what was working.
This is why, as a general rule, I believe you are better off acknowledging praise with one of the following:
a. silence
b. a blank stare into the distance
c. a neutral nod.
Yes, you can also say or write “thank you” – but do so with a sense of neutrality.
Does this mean praise is out and criticism is in?
Not at all.
Constructive criticism is over-rated as well (to be covered in a future lesson).
But when you praise, make it about the tangibles that a person can latch onto. You cannot latch onto “you’re a natural.” In fact, telling someone he is a natural gives the person room to rest.
Rest, by the way, is not what makes someone great.
Work, physical as well as psychological, is what makes someone good.
Work is tangible. You have to DO something.
Being told you’re a natural undermines a person because he or she is being told that the skill doesn’t come from WORK – it was given to you.
Oh, lucky me. I’m a natural. See how good I am. The coach just told me I’m the best.
Plop.
Meanwhile, someone with less talent, someone who is less natural, passes you as you’re stuck in your own head, thinking about how “blessed” you are.
If you want to be blessed, then put together an incredible work ethic; one that includes the physical, psychological and spiritual sides of the equation.
See it. Feel it. Do it.
Matt Furey
By the way, you’ll notice I never praise you for being on this list. I never write to tell you how awesome you are. I never write to say that you’re so smart because you’re one of the few who “gets it.” There are many reasons for this, a few of which are contained in today’s email. You’ll find others in Theatre of the Mind – the best-selling audio program I did with Nightingale-Conant.
Loser Pitcher Wins World Series Ring
To the fans and media in Boston, their pitcher was a bust.
He couldn’t win in the postseason and he couldn’t beat the Yankees.
On top of that, adding insult to infamy, this pitcher was getting $30 million a year.
And logic has it, if you’re getting $30 million per year, you are a loser if you don’t beat the Yankees, or win when it counts, in the playoffs.
In a playoff game a couple weeks ago, this loser pitcher didn’t even last two innings against the Yankees.
The ruthless fans showed their love, sung to the sound of “Booooo”as he walked off the field.
This morning, these same fans are in love. Their loser pitcher is now a hero.
He went from 0-9 in the postseason, to winning three games without a loss. Most importantly, he was the winning pitcher in the clinching game of the World Series.
He deserved the MVP for his efforts, but those things matter not when everyone knows you’re “the Man.”
David Price, rose from the fire of the abyss and transformed himself and his team into world champions – and did so within a few short weeks.
The talent and skill to win in the playoffs was there all along – but something was activated inside of Mr. Price after the pounding he received from the Yankees, and the Boston fans.
Coaches and players and the player himself can talk about a change in mechanics or some other physical detail all they want – but no change on the outside ever happens without one taking place on the inside.
As an observer, you can look into the eyes of a pitcher, quarterback or leader in any field, and you can tell who the warrior is and who’s the Nervous Nelly.
Becoming who Price was over the past couple weeks, comes from mixing your intention with your imagination. Not one or the other.
Both.
It also comes from being willing to move through the pain, to accept it as part of the process. Growth without pain (or pangs) rarely exists, regardless of what level of success you’ve already attained.
Price wasn’t just a pitcher in the Major Leagues. He was also a former Cy Young winner.
He was far from being a loser – but was considered one because he didn’t win when the fans thought it mattered most.
Now he’s proven to himself and the fans, at least for now, that he’s a winner – and a deserving one at that.
David Price’s monumental turnaround, proves to all of us, once again, that failure is never final and that when we are stuck in the deepest canyon, we are simultaneously in perfect position to scale the world’s tallest mountain.
See it. Feel it. Be it.
Matt Furey
The Price Ain’t Right in Boston
A few days ago I was reading about the Boston press, and how there’s no love between them and lefty pitcher David Price.
The press and fans detest his woeful record against the New York Yankees, whom he pitched against last night.
Not surprisingly, Price was defensive when answering questions – just as the great Ted Williams was.
And last night, Price got shellacked once again, which will undoubtedly lead to more bad press today, as well as more bad vibes from the fans.
Now let’s analyze this in a Psycho-Cybernetics sort of way.
You have a great pitcher, a former Cy Young award winner. He’s being paid well over 100 million dollars to robotically perform at his best, regardless of whom he plays, regardless of when or where, too.
And if he doesn’t do the job, i.e. he isn’t the robot the fans and the media expect him to be, the way to fix the situation is through condemnation and humiliation.
How’s it working out so far?
It’s not.
If you want David Price to pitch well against the Yankees, instead of reminding him before each outing, how he NEVER pitches
well against this team, why not remind him of all the games he pitched in and won on the way to winning a Cy Young?
Why not take him back in time to an outing, even an inning, against the Yankees, wherein he pitched well?
Why not help him OUT of the corner?
Instead of doing so, the media pushes him further into it while simultaneously expecting a different result?
And what they get is more of what they say they don’t want… while expecting a different result, a different Price to show up.
Insanity.
Give me fifteen minutes with David Price and he’ll stride to the mound with confidence – against the Yankees or anyone else.
I’ll put him through a high-octane Theatre of the Mind, reminding him of his greatness, and he will begin to perform better and better.
But when he comes back to Tampa?
Uggh, I’ll be rooting for Price’s former team.
See it. Feel it. Be it.
Matt Furey
It Hurts, I Know and I Understand
Back in February, my son’s senior year of high school baseball began, and as the saying goes, “all bets were off.”
I don’t know what it is about this game, which no parent should EVER allow his or her son to play. unless, of course, you want
to teach your child how to overcome mistakes and feelings of failure – which he will probably NEVER encounter in any other area of life. (Sarcasm intended).
The team went 24-4 and finished in the Final Four at the state championships – which is to say – they were doing great… until they LOST.
Yes, I still HATE losing – even when it’s not me playing the game.
By the way, one of the worst things you can say to someone after a loss is “congratulations.”
Hearing “congratulations”after you lose in the semifinals or finals, sucks beyond all rational comprehension.
It really does.
The very BEST thing you can say to a player after a loss is….
“It hurts, I know and I understand.”
Then give the player a hug and let him know you love him and are proud of him, regardless.
Back in the early 1990’s, when I was learning about the power of deep breathing at an entirely new level, I spoke to my instructor, Nancy, about how strange I felt leaving my old home and moving into a new one.
I mentioned how I felt a sense of loss, even though I couldn’t wait to move out of the old and into the new.
Nancy nodded and replied: “Anytime you make a change and leave someone or something behind, the emotion of grief is present. You may suppress it, but it’s there.”
Is there grief when a season ends? When a child graduates? When a daughter gets married and moves on?
Is there grief when your team loses the World Series, or the Super Bowl?
You better believe it.
This is why you see grown men cry after losing a pivotal game. It’s not because they are cry babies or can’t take it. It’s because they are human beings feeling an overpowering emotion.
Getting past the grief is necessary, though, as it’s pretty hard to operate when you’re filled with sadness.
The fastest ways to assuage the pain and rid yourself of the grief and sadness are as follows:
1. Breathe deeply and let the feelings come up. As you continue to breathe, they will dissipate.
2. Talk to others who understand and are compassionate.
3. Write about it. Let your feelings pour onto a piece of paper – preferably by hand.
4. Do something physical – such as walking, punching a heavy bag, stretching, etc.
5. Most powerful of all, look for and find the positive memories stored in your brain or “personal cloud.”
Download those memories. Relive them. Re-experience them. Make the memories come alive again – and use them to step into the future once again, willing to take risks with confidence and courage.
As you do so, realize that mistakes and failures are there for a reason – and the reasons are almost always a huge positive, as well as an unseen and currently unimagined benefit to you in the long run,
Discover how to do all of the above at a superhuman level by reading Psycho-Cybernetics – or by investing in the more advanced course entitled Zero Resistance Living.
And it that’s not enough, then enroll in my Theater of the Mind Facebook group.
All for now,
Matt Furey
P.S. Also, if you want to learn how to write emails such as this one, and dramatically improve your business, then go here.
Expect Nothing, Achieve Much
About four years ago, before I started a tai chi class with my instructor, I thought I would give him a gift.
Twas a Furey fan favorite entitled, Expect to Win – Hate to Lose.
I didn’t think I could go wrong giving this book to my teacher.
He looks at it, pauses, then says, “You know, if I were writing this book, I would have titled it….”
He proceeded to tell me why the title wasn’t very good, in his viewpoint, and gave a couple reasons to justify his opinion.
I stood a few feet away and listened, then we walked to the center of the floor and began our lesson.
No harm – no foul, even though this was definitely not the norm for how someone responds when given a gift, especially a gift you wrote yourself.
Over the years I’ve pondered this situation a few times, especially as my thinking evolved on a number of topics, including the concept of expectation or “expecting to win.”
I’m now of the opinion that sometimes it feels as though it’s a good idea to “expect” the best – but more often than not, for many people much of the time, having high expectations leads to the worst results.
People who set big goals, who think big, who follow all the procedures and advice of so many of the self-development gurus
of this day and age, are going to be let down in a BIG way. They are going to be profoundly disappointed.
They’re not just going to be let down, however, because they can’t achieve their dreams or goals.
They most certainly can.
The let down is more a result of using self-help in the wrong way, of being misled to think you need to be unnatural to attain a big goal.
And when the unnatural actions and ideas don’t yield the results you EXPECTED, you end up feeling CRUSHED.
This is most definitely the case in sports, in career advancement, in writing, in selling, in rearing your children – and the grandbaby of them all – politics.
When you expect to win and you’re victorious – all is well in your world.
But when you expet to win and you lose – especially when you lose to someone who supposedly had no chance to beat you – you’re not only crushed – you’re probably depressed.
I’ve watched this play out in sports such as baseball so often it’s practically guaranteed to happen when you least expect it.
Two years in a row my son’s high school baseball team was ranked in the top ten in the state. In the first round of districts they faced a team with a record south of .500 – and I mean, way south.
Both years they expected to win. Both times they lost.
Uh-oh. Now what do you do?
As a result of my tai chi practice, as well as closely observing what is and isn’t true, based upon results, not pie-in-the-sky theory, I can tell you that the sequel to Expect to Win – Hate to Lose will not be…
Expect to Win – Volume Two.
Instead, it’ll be something along the lines of Expect Nothing and Achieve More.
Yet, the above assumes I’m going to write a sequel – yet, as of now, I have no expectation of doing so.
Does the above mean that I don’t believe in goals or goal setting?
What it means is I believe in goals and goal setting that is natural, that causes flow instead of fear, that causes success even
when that is not what you’re focused on.
Setting goals that scare you is NOT NATURAL.
Neither is massive action or sitting around working on changing your limiting beliefs.
There is a naturally just so to life and to living.
There is a rhythm.
When you force success you cause a blow out somewhere down the road.
When success is a natural extension of who you are – you will live the life others dream about.
As for yourself, you still have to pinch your cheek from time to time and ask, “Is this for real? Did I really do all of THIS? Unreal.”
Think of it this way, in baseball, if you approached your pitcher before a big game and told him you expected him to throw a no-hitter, or a perfect game – you would most assuredly screw him up.
The same would happen to the golfer whom you told to hit a hole in one as he was teeing off.
But if you focus this athlete on the small – he may surprise himself and win it all.
Matt Furey
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