Still setting all those big, hairy, scary long-term goals?
How you coming along?
Yes, you better believe there is a simpler, better, easier and non-scary way to put yourself on the path to achieving more than you ever thought possible.
And it doesn’t require you to look five, 10 or 20 years into the future in every area of your life.
It doesn’t require that you SET GOALS THAT SCARE YOU.
It doesn’t require you to get out of your COMFORT ZONE.
It doesn’t require MASSIVE ACTION.
Nor does it require you to THINK BIG.
None of the above were taught by Dr. Maxwell Maltz in his classical best-seller, Psycho-Cybernetics. None of the above are taught by me.
I’m currently in the process of interviewing prospective coaching clients – people who want to get the real goods on successful living.
If you want to go beyond where you currently are, if you want to follow a simple approach to successful living that gives you results you can look at and examine on a daily basis, then reach out to me and we’ll see where it leads.
Best,
Matt Furey
Positive Fault Finding
Ever get called a fault finder? Think it’s a negative?
Well, it most certainly can be, and oftentimes is – but leave it to el Furecat to put a positive spin on what so many people assume to be a horrendous negative.
As I often say, there are positives in every negative and negatives in every positive. Almost nothing in the human or earthly realm is one hundred percent one-way.
You may recall the line about how “no one ever erected a statue to a critic.” This line may be true, but it doesn’t mean you should negate ALL statements that are “supposedly” negative.
Why do I highlight the word “supposedly?” Because correcting course by becoming aware of your mistakes is supposed to be a positive.
Think of it this way, although fault finding can sting, the depth of the sting or the lack thereof, usually depends on WHO is finding fault, and how YOU process the information.
For example, the other day a woman wrote to tell me I had a typo on my bio page. She pointed out my use of the word “doormat” and suggested it should read “dormant.” I wrote to inform her that her evaluation was incorrect.
I didn’t condemn the woman; nor was I upset, although I could have been offended.
At this juncture in my career, I am used to men and women writing to tell me about my typos. I am also used to the reality that none of them ever point out anything good about my writing before they inform me of my error. They truly pride themselves on finding fault and expect me to see their keen insight the same way they see it in themselves, i.e. they are merely “trying to help.”
In the olden days, when I received emails that told me I had a typo, it used to irk me. Who the hell is this person? What has he or she ever written?
Yes, the answers to the questions shown above make a big difference. Why? Because if the person writing me has street-cred, if he or she is a best-selling author or seven-figure copywriter, well then, I’m probably all ears, don’t you think?
At the same time, if someone fault-finds and is wrong, I immediately let the person hear it. Some take this well – others don’t.
I remember a lad a couple years ago, who told me that I was making a mistake on a product. He was totally off-base and wrong, not only then, but to this very day. The dude didn’t appreciate me pointing out that he was wrong, and told me I am an egomaniac and should “stop being so defensive.”
Wait a second, bubba. You accuse me of doing something wrong, and when it’s pointed out that I’m not wrong, you play the “don’t be defensive” card? It’s a strange game some people play. They must stay in control, even when you prove them wrong.
Those with the highest credentials generally don’t have the desire to point out a typo or two in my emails, unless we are friends, and in that case, they generally just blurt out what they uncover.
“Hey Furey, page three, line six, you misspelled the word bloke. It’s not spelled bloak.”
“Aaah,” I reply. “You’re on it. Thanks.”
But if the person is wrong, I let him know. Then it’s time to see how HE reacts.
If he says, “Don’t be so defensive,” I realize I’m dealing with a lunatic.
Now let’s put some moolah where the action is. “No one ever builds a statue for a critic,” we are told, but… if you are PAID to be a critic, you may find yourself enjoying the enormous upside of fault-finding.
I just read today’s New York Post headlines, as I do each day. They were jumping on the shock jock, Howard Stern, saying he’s gone soft. Ouch. Then they thumped the Oscars for being the bore that they are. Viewership is down to less than 10 million. Double Ouch.
Every highly paid news anchor is a master fault finder. Diddo for the highest-paid coaches in sports. Same-same for writers.
Fault-finding is a highly profitable skill – when it’s placed in the proper hands.
As a champion athlete and martial artist, as a best-selling writer, as a parent and coach, I am a master fault finder. I get paid handsomely to find the bottlenecks that, when removed, make what you’re doing masterful – or at the bare minimum, a helluva lot better.
This means, if someone calls me a fault finder or a critic, it makes me smile.
It also means that I search for coaches who don’t polish my apples or shine my bald head. I look for coaches who will tell it to me straight, without all the bullocks.
Without a doubt, there are plenty of coaches who take fault finding too far. They never give any praise. All they do is belittle you and cut you down. That’s not the type of coach I look for. Similarly, I don’t want a coach who is always positive, who will never tell me what’s wrong because he’s afraid my feelings will get shredded.
Ideally, what I am looking for is a coach who gives me honest feedback; someone who tells me when I’m coming along, when I’m improving – but is also willing and capable of telling me that something isn’t up to a certain standard.
Show me a coach who does nothing but sing your praises, and I’ll show you a loser. Every winning coach in every sport is a master fault finder, and they can and do take their statements and their record to the bank.
See it. Feel it. Live it.
Matt Furey
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About that Big, Scary Goal You’ve Set
This morning a guy in the sauna started rapping with me about the power of big goals; especially the ones that scare you and force you out of your comfort zone as you supposedly take “massive action.”
I was laughing inside as he spoke because I’m aware that he hasn’t achieved a single one of his big goals, and I’ve been watching and waiting for well over ten years.
The guy insists on big goals, the big dream, the grand hurrah. But it never comes.
Meanwhile, he would be far better off focusing on what he can control in the here and now. What goal can he accomplish TODAY?
It’s wonderful thinking you can control what is going to happen in your life ten or twenty years from now. But the truth is that most people will NOT be the same as they are today, a year from now, much less five or more years down the road. This means, chances are excellent that the one who is writing the 20-year blueprint for his or her life today won’t even exist when that day comes around.
“Where you going to be in five years?” I was asked.
“Five years?” I replied. “You want to know where I’m going to be in five years? How about you ask me what I’m going to get done today, or this week, or this month, or at the furthest, by the end of this year?”
There’s a reason that Dr. Maltz recommended daily goals in Zero Resistance Living – and that is the advanced course on Psycho-Cybernetics.
In short, if you’re not able to focus on and achieve a daily goal, you’re not ready for a bigger, scarier goal with a longer time frame.
Prove to yourself that you can focus on something today – and make it happen. Achieve one new goal everyday for a year, and I bet you will have run a hundred laps around those with the big, scary goals who can’t get themselves off the sofa; or those who go into each day frightened and worried that they might fail.
On a daily basis, give yourself the experience that you are WINNING.
When winning becomes a daily habit, it becomes a long-term reality.
Same can be said about losing.
In order to establish momentum in a positive direction, you need daily feedback that shows you that you’re making something good happen in your life. This isn’t happening with the long-term goals.
Focus on the achievements in the NOW and you’ll make people look up and say WOW.
See it. Feel it. Live it.
Matt Furey
Clearing Negative Emotions Fast
As you’re probably aware, almost two months ago, my father passed away at the age of 97. Even though I realized his departure from this earth was imminent, when the finality of the news hit, it definitely shook me up.
Thankfully, I had a number of healing routines I could follow. I could pray. I could meditate. And I could practice Theatre of the Mind.
But there was something else I did every single evening, and it cleared away the negative emotions, without any effort whatsoever. What I practiced every night is a type of moving meditation called Dao Zou, I learned more than 15 years ago.
When I first learned this system, I had no idea that one day I would be using it and teaching it to help people overcome negative emotions, including the emotions of grief and sadness. But I’m sure glad I had this knowledge in my tool box because it made a huge shift in my emotional state whenever the seemingly unshakeable feelings would surface.
Each night when I began, I didn’t feel up to the challenge, but I recognized how to overcome my own resistance to the routine by focusing on taking small steps. Not big ones. Nothing major. Just a few steps in reverse.
After a few steps I would tell myself, “Just give me 100 steps.” When I had almost reached 100 steps I was eager for another 100, and so on.
At 500 steps I felt so good I could have stopped, but the urge to keep going, the internal impetus to transcend and rise above it all was telling me to keep going.
Keep going, I did, until I reached 2,000 steps. Then I jumped in the sauna for at least 20 minutes.
The sauna alone is great for toughening yourself up mentally – but I don’t recommend doing it before purging the grief and sadness from your system.
Each evening, after Dao Zou and the sauna, I would go to bed feeling so much better. But the next day, at some point, another layer of grief would emerge.
What to do now?
How about the same thing you did yesterday?
How about you rinse and repeat what works, realizing there is no “one time fixes all” approach in the self-development or spiritual world.
Brush your teeth daily. Shower daily. And clean your mind daily with some form of meditation, prayer or visualization – or all of the above, if necessary.
After 10 evenings of daily Dao Zou, I woke up one morning with an unmistakable feeling of inner peace about my father’s passing. What a glorious moment.
The results I got this time around, proved to me once again, that Dao Zou is much more than a health and fitness program. It’s a healing program that emphasizes moving, instead of trying to sit your way to feeling better, which doesn’t work.
Dao Zou can help clear the mind-body of sadness and grief, as well as worry, self-doubt and fear.
It can also help you learn other skills faster than anything I have ever seen or witnessed. It truly is the Ultimate in Moving Meditation as it catapults you into an incredibly vibrant state of consciousness.
Now you can claim your copy of Dao Zou at a ridiculously low amount. And if you prefer, you can download it digitally and begin practicing almost immediately, giving you instant proof of what I’m writing about.
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See it. Feel it. Be it.
Matt Furey
Kicking IS the Habit
The old commercials in the 1960’s and 70’s spoke about “kicking the habit” when it came to cigarette smoking.
Framed positively, I think of kicking AS the daily habit I want in my life.
Instead of kicking a bad habit, though, I picture kicking a GOOD habit into high gear. And kicking, in and of itself, is superb exercise for brain and body.
’tis part of the reason that I love kicking. Lots and lots of kicking.
Kicking footballs, soccer balls… even basketballs.
Kicking heavy bags. Kicking weeds.
All are good, but kicking into an imaginary scenario that I’m picturing in the air, that’s my favorite.
Last night I knocked out 100 kicks. That’s the goal I set for “light” days. But once I get going, even on easy training days, it can be hard to stop because once the dopamine and serotonin kick in, it’s a different world, one where time ceases to exist.
I take plenty of short rest breaks when I’m kicking. I don’t just kick until I’m done. It’s not uncommon for me to begin with kicks in sets of 10. I do them in super slow motion, slow motion, at a fair clip as well as at lightning fast. The variances make it easy to get my work in and make the training invigorating.
I start small so I can tackle it all.
The way I look at it, 10 kicks a day, without missing, is better than thinking I should do 1,000, but I never start because I’ve set a goal so big that I’m resisting going after it.
And that’s one of the previously unrevealed truths about setting all those big, hairy goals. Some of those hairs get stuck on your tongue and in the back of your throat. They make you resist and rebel against the very thing you supposedly decided upon.
Small daily goals remove the emotional resistance you may have to “doing the work.” If you don’t turn something into a “chore,” then your mind is free to have fun and enjoy what you’re doing. It’s also free to go way beyond the initial goal you set. Way, way beyond.
Kick your habits into high gear, one swat at a time.
Matt Furey
P.S. If you’ve already read the 35 million copy best-seller, Psycho-Cybernetics, then take a gander at the advanced courses: Zero Resistance Living and Theatre of the Mind
If You Hate Making Mistakes
“Mistakes contain the essential information we need to rise above them.
When we are “off course,” we are also on it. In the process of missing a
shot, we are also given the feedback that will help us make the next one.”
Matt Furey
You, are the Director
Think of your life as a major motion feature, and in this movie, you’re more than an actor. You’re also the director, the producer, the editor, as well as the audience.
When you begin to see yourself from this vantage point, you gain an advantage, a sense of well being and control, over every aspect of your life.
Instead of doubting whether or not you can change the way you think, feel and act, you realize you CAN.
The director within says, “cut,” and has you to perform the scene again. You continue to make adjustments until the director within is pleased with the improvements.
Viewing your life from a broader perspective isn’t a one-time exercise that sticks with you forever. All improvements in life are in accord with the Law of Practice.
Visualization practice is similar to a daily shower. If you practice showering once a week, you will look, smell and feel better for one day. If you shower daily, you are better off each and every day.
Practice, or the lack of it, makes you or breaks you
Participating in a consistent visualization practice will benefit you in seen and unseen ways. To reap the rewards, make sure you’re reading and listening to the truisms that are available at Psycho-Cybernetics.
And when you are ready to go to the next level with me as your coach, go here and let’s see how I can help you become the director of your own major motion feature.
See it. Feel it. Do it.
Matt Furey
3 Bizarre Ways to Wake Up Your Brain
If you’re not in the mood to do what you need to do, to get done what needs getting done, especially when you want to get it done, then here are some bizarre ways to light up your brain and get yourself propelled forward:
1. Take out a pen or pencil and begin drawing a series of straight lines. Don’t try to draw the straightest lines you can draw. Instead, mentally picture a straight line being drawn as you move the instrument. If the line isn’t as straight as it would be when using a ruler, then join the club. Even seasoned artists cannot draw lines that straight. After drawing some straight lines, you can move to wavy lines, circles and figure 8’s. Five minutes of his exercise is all you need to kick start your brain.
2. Get your hands dirty by working with plants and trees. If you have a garden, this is easy. If not, you nowhere to go to get started.
Digging into the earth with your hands and feet does more than activate the brain, though. When you take care of what you previously planted, when you observe the seasonal, automatic changes taking place, your mind cannot help but ponder whether or not a Creator’s hand is involved. As you look at the laws of nature with something you planted, you are drawn to examine how these same laws are operating in your life.
3. Do something noisy. Whether it’s beating a drum, cracking a whip, knocking over pins (bowling), hitting golf balls, playing ping pong, singing/chanting, shooting free throws or tapping your fingertips or feet on a floor or table, your brain loves the repetitive sound of noise. It doesn’t take long, either, for your brain to relax, to leave the limbic world of fight, flight or freeze and enter the world of the creative gene-yes (genius).
All of these exercises give you some creative ways to blow off steam and gain a feeling of control over your life.
It’s true, sometimes, even when we want to get going, we can resist doing so. This is when it is a grand idea to pull some tools out of your grab bag and get yourself going, without even realizing you are doing so. Giving your hands something to do is ideal because your hands (and feet) have more nerve endings connected to your brain than any other areas of the body.
See it. Feel it. Be it.
Matt Furey
Psycho-Cybernetics.com
P.S. For more information on getting coached in Psycho-Cybernetics and Theatre of the Mind, go here.
Big Goals – Big Energy?
If you want more energy for each day, then set your goals BIG and think BIGGER.
But what if you’ve already done that and you can’t get yourself out of bed in the morning because you’re paralyzed with fear, worry and self-doubt?
This is what happens to many people who’ve been taught the standard goal-setting procedures. You know the ones I’m talking about. The ones where you set big, hairy, ludicrous goals, especially ones that “scare” you.
Yes, it is ludicrous to set a goal that scares you. And it is the polar opposite of what Dr. Maltz taught in Psycho-Cybernetics.
As for goals that inspire you, that’s a different story altogether.
The truth is it doesn’t take a big goal to get you off your duff. Small, simple goals that you can nail on a daily basis will definitely do. And then once a month or every two weeks, you stretch yourself. You go where you’ve never gone before – yet you do so without anxiety, worry or the ridiculous notion of “getting out of your comfort zone.”
Huh? What?
You mean I don’t need to get out of my comfort zone?
Correct. You need to find your comfort zone and expand it without even trying to do so, without giving any thought to it whatsoever.
Want to learn how to do this? Then contact me about coaching by going here.
See it. Feel it. Be it.
Matt Furey
When Goal Setting Isn’t Working
There are many reasons that so many goal setting methods don’t work for the majority of the people who use them.
Here are seven of those reasons:
1. The goals are too big.
2. The goals tend to create fear, panic, anxiety and nervousness.
3. The goals don’t spontaneously put you “in the zone” – and the teachers of the methods erroneously claim that ALL success comes from getting OUT of your comfort zone. This is easily refuted by observing how quickly children (and adults) learn when they are comfortable versus how difficult it is for them to learn when their nerves are rattled.
4. The goals involve too many action steps.
5. The goals are all about money, status, fame and power.
6. The goals are things you think you “should” do, be or have rather than what is best for you.
7. The goals are only about results and never cover a procedural system that will make attainment of the objective much easier.
Yes, there are people who believe the opposite of what I’ve shown above, but as I so often tell them, “Find the places in Psycho-Cybernetics where Dr. Maltz teaches you to do any of the above. And when you find that I am in error, give me the page, paragraph and line.”
I seriously doubt you’ll be able to find Dr. Maltz telling you to “set goals that scare you,” or to “get out of your comfort zone.”
Why?
Because neither of these notions helps facilitate your brain and nervous system automatically and effortlessly moving toward the targets you have in mind.
Tis true.
How about setting goals that inspire you, goals that create momentum, goals that catapult you into “the zone” where everything you do feels as though you have the magic touch?
That’s what I teach, my friend.
If you want to learn how to truly apply Psycho-Cybernetics, then check out mycoaching program, by going here.
See it. Feel it. Be it.
Matt Furey
