“Many people who have inner emotional scars have never suffered physical injuries… the result on personality is the same.” – Maxwell Maltz, M.D. – Psycho-Cybernetics, Updated and Expanded

An inner emotional scar may be present in the mind without any hint of a physical scar. These scars are usually due to traumatic experiences we witnessed or were a part of in some way.

The trauma doesn’t need to be extreme to leave a scar. It could be as simple as being slighted, rejected, or disrespected somehow.

While giving a speech at one of my events, one of my teachers, the late Ted Nicholas, told a story about his failures as a young teenager who desperately wanted to make the roster of the basketball, football, or baseball team. In

those days, the coach would post a sheet of paper on a wall that listed the names of everyone who made the cut.

With eager anticipation, Ted would examine the roster and upon not seeing his name, feel demoralized.

As Ted told this story, one that took place six decades earlier, the audience could feel the pain associated with his memory and how he used it to drive himself forward, becoming a successful entrepreneur, best-­selling author,

as well as an accomplished tennis player who regularly defeated top players throughout the world.

Dr. Maltz often said that the plastic surgeries he performed were for 0.5 percent of the population, mostly for those who were born with a physical defect or those who were injured in an accident.

He also stated that the principles of psycho-­ cybernetics are for the 99.5 percent of the population who have internal scars from failures, setbacks, hurt feelings, rejection, a loss of love, and so on.

All of us have endured some sort of emotional upset that has left us with internal scars. The good news is that this internal scar tissue can be eradicated through the practice of visualization and Theatre of the Mind.

Doing so begins with finding the positive in the negative, noting how you can use your traumatic experiences to benefit yourself and others.

Matthew Furey

Today’s email is an excerpt from Psycho-Cybernetics 365 – a life-changing book with a pivotal message for each day of the year.

“A golfer needs to know where the bunkers and sandtraps are —­ but he doesn’t think continuously about the bunker, where he doesn’t want to go. His mind ‘glances’ at the bunker, but dwells upon the green.” – Maxwell Maltz, M.D. – Psycho-Cybernetics, Updated and Expanded

Today’s quotation from Dr. Maltz is an example of what I call the necessity of knowing your GPS position in relation to your goal.

You maintain simultaneous awareness of where you are and where you want to be.

Golfers must know where they don’t want the ball to go while picturing where they want it to land.

The pros don’t dwell on where they are in a disempowering way. They use a minimized mental picture of where they are on the course. The same is true in team sports, such as football, where a receiver must focus on catching the pass while maintaining awareness of his feet landing in bounds.

When it comes to goal setting, so many people are led to believe that all you need to do is focus on your target and that you should ignore where you are currently.

This is not how you get results each day when you want something to eat or drink.

You acknowledge your hunger and thirst, picture the food and beverage you want, and go get them.

Why change the game and use another method when moving toward goals in other areas of your life?

The hunger and thirst method works flawlessly every day of your life, while alternative methods rarely work.

See where you want to go but pay attention to where you are now.

If you want to increase your income and financial well-being, create graphs and charts that tell your brain, “Here is where I am now and this is where I am going.”

To achieve your goals, metaphorically speaking, you pull the bowstring back and remove the slack so the arrow can fly. You create tension in the direction of the goal, then you release it. If you don’t pull the bowstring back, the arrow doesn’t move.

Matthew Furey

P.S. C.B. wrote, “Your new book (Psycho-Cybernetics 365) is AMAZING! I’ve always wanted to be a writer… and your talent is off the charts. I honestly believe that your book is destined to be ranked right up there with Dr. Maltz’s original book. It is THAT GOOD! I am so glad I am reading it. Take care, Sir.”