One of the cardinal rules of successful living is to “see yourself with kind eyes.”
This means you must let go of frustration, disappointment, mistakes, setbacks and failures. To see yourself with kind eyes means you stop criticizing and condemning yourself for what you “should” have done – “could” have done – and “would” have done.
A favorite Wayne Dyer line to keep close to your lips goes as follows: “You can never SHOULD have done anything.”
If your son or daughter misses a free throw and you say, “You should have made that one,” – you are talking in moronic
language. You cannot go back into the past and re-do your missed basket.
If you don’t make a sale, you are using guilt to your disadvantage if you say, “You should have said x,y,z.” Again, you cannot go back and re-do mistakes. So the guilt of “should” serves no function other than to keep you stuck.
Such is the way it is in the physical world.
But in the world of the mind – you can actually turn your “should have” to your advantage.
You CAN go back and fix the past. It’s nothing but a mental movie or series of snapshots anyway. And you’re the star, director, producer and script writer.
So why not go back and re-do the past? Why not have things turn out the way you’d like them to turn out.
If you’ve always been afraid to hike mountains, why not go back and see yourself hiking a mountain courageously?
If you always get upset when someone calls you a certain name, or asks you a “dumb” question, why not go back and relive your reaction, then change it?
You change it in the present. In the NOW – which doesn’t last very long. And with each new now, you stay the course, you keep focused on how you’re going to do things or react to comments or situations from now on.
As a coach, my job is to reflect reality so that those whom I teach can see what they were missing, and change it.
There is no flattery. There’s no apple polishing. There’s no telling a person what he or she wants to hear so he’ll keep being a client.
At the same time, there’s no guilt or negative judgment. A person has already done what’s he’s done. He cannot re-do it. But he can change how he feels about the past and move forward with a renewed zest and passion for life.
Last night I worked with a young man who sent me a “mind movie” he’d made some time ago. None of what he had in his movie had taken place. In fact, he’d gone backward.
I only watched the first segment. I’d seen enough. And I instantly knew why this man was stuck.
Everything was about having loads of cash, having new cars, a big house and so on.
Nothing wrong with any of the above.
Okay, if that’s the case, why didn’t I like his mind movie? Because there was no gratitude for the past. There was no sense of having accomplished ANYTHING yet in life. Everything was future, future, future.
That my friends, is what distinguishes Theatre of the Mind from all the other programs.
Everything else is gimme, gimme, gimme. I want more, more, more.
Truth is, you can have MORE, with ease, when you get clear on the fact that you already have a lot. You have much to be grateful for – all year round. Every single day. And you have it WITHIN YOU.
What’s more, when you tap into what you have within you – with gratitude – seeing yourself with kind eyes, a whole new universe opens to you.
Yet, instead of recognizing your value and what is already within, most people look to the outside to assess their value. Sad. and true.
Instead of following the sad standard procedure, why not answer the way I’ve depicted it for you in this imaginary dialogue between your conscience (Judge) and your BIG SELF played as YOU:
Judge: “What’s your net worth?”
You: “I’m unable to calculate it right now.”
Judge: “Why not?”
You: “Because it’s too big.”
Judge: “How big is it, approximately?”
You: “It’s infinite.”
You: “Yes, infinite.”
Judge: “And why do you say your net worth is infinite?”
You: “Well, that’s simple. It’s because I have millions upon millions of movie clips in my brain. They’re swimming around with me at all times. And anytime I want to find a really good memory, all I have to do is pull it from the shelf and watch it. When I do this, I instantly feel like a billion bucks. And that’s just from ONE MOVIE. Again, I’ve got millions of these in my memory – and just one of them can bring me a lot of good. Not only that, but each and every day,
more is being added. It’s a non-stop process. So tell me, how can I truly calculate my net worth. So my closest approximation of my net worth is INFINITY.”
My friend, Theatre of the Mind puts you in touch with the INFINITE. Every time you do the practice, you reach into your mind, amplify it’s power and upgrade your physical skills.
You may think, ah, it’s just another self-help program, but the following customer says the following about it:
I’m on my 2nd listen-through. Theatre of the Mind is so good that I cleared my entire bookshelf of all books, DVDs, and audios.
And the only thing that sits on my book shelf is Theatre of the Mind. It looks kind of funny. But it makes everything else I own obsolete.
MJF: Thank you, Jason. That’s some high praise.
Grab your copy of Theatre of the Mind NOW – and make your life into the masterpiece you know it can be.