As some say in the south – “dadgummit.”
That’s what I could have said yesterday – and a whole lot more, when I spent a good half-hour working on an email masterpiece.
It was a great one. It was riveting. It cut right to the heart of the matter in many peoples’ lives – especially the financial aspect.
Upon finishing this masterpiece – the computer shut down. There was no way to retrieve what I’d written because it was typed on the email site itself – not on a document.
As soon as this happened – I inhaled, took a breath and surprised myself with my next thought.
What was it?
Well, it wasn’t “dadgummit.” It didn’t contain expletives – unspoken or out loud.
It was as follows…
“Looks like that email wasn’t supposed to go out today. You can re-do it later. You can still remember what you wrote, so nothing is really lost – except time – and time doesn’t really exist anyway – so carry on.”
Are you serious, Furey?
Again, this suprised me. I’m not normally this calm about things. Close – but not when I lose something I’ve written.
If I had to give you a penny for all the times in life I’ve gotten upset over stupid stuff, worried over things that will soon pass, driven myself to frustration instead of unwinding my mind – you’d have a nice little nest-egg – that’s for sure.
Part of being truly human is the willingness to admit that you make mistakes. Stupid mistakes.
The other part is being willing to forgive YOURSELF – so you can move on and improve.
When we think about forgiveness, we usually think it’s about “others.” It’s not. It’s about YOU. It’s always about YOU.
You start by dropping the baggage about yourself. You drop the “I’m an X because I did X” story.
And as you’re able to toss your own garbage out – you open space within your mind to realize that others can be given a bit more slack,too.
After tossing out your own stupidities – and learning from them – you return to the NOW – for a fleeting moment – because the NOW never lasts. The NOW is gone as soon as it arrives.
Yet, from this so-called NOW – we can go into the past to find the moments in time when we experienced happiness, joy,
elation, peace of mind and so on.
It’s not BACK TO THE FUTURE.
It’s BACK TO THE NOW.
You go back in time to the moments when you were at your best – and then you feel as if you’re truly living them in the NOW.
The so-called NOW is when time stops. It ceases to exist. You have no sense of it whatsoever. You and what you are doing or not doing are just existing.
This awareness of who you are allows you to navigate life with effortless ease.
In Psycho-Cybernetics speak, we call this Zero Resistance Living.
You stop going through life with sand-paper rubbing against your skin. You start sliding through life as if you’re riding a sled through packed snow. You start rising higher with the wind – realizing you cannot get anywhere without it.
There are those who think you must resist life to make it; that you must even resist resistance itself.
I don’t share this line of thought.
Resistance is something you turn into effortless effort.
You’re working – but it doesn’t feel like work.
You’re practicing – even doing so with absolute gusto – but it doesn’t feel like practice.
You’re competing – giving it all you’ve got – and you make it look easy.
That’s what life is like when you use resistance to climb higher instead of seeing it as another battle to overcome.
Yesterday a man who recently purchased Theatre of the Mind wrote to tell me how calm he’s getting following the program. He says he’s listened to the program three times already – and he now has his wife listening to it along with him.
When a program is so good that you listen to it repeatedly, something must be right on about it. Comments like this make my day.
If you’ve got a story to tell about your experiences with Theatre of the Mind – please let me hear it. Would love to know about it
All for now – and so far, no dadgummits.
P.S. Starting over isn’t so hard. Each day we do it, without thinking. If you made a mistake yesterday, don’t curse your circumstances. Start again today.
No worry. No fear.